‘Be yourself’ has to be the most overrated piece of advice ever. Just think of all the things you would do if you didn’t restrain yourself and you’d see why. lol. We often don’t show our true selves because we strive to be better than what we are. That sounds like a good thing to me.
Most things in life boil down to putting on a performance and playing a role. In everything, there are a series of customs and conventions to follow to be successful.
You have a job interview, you research what you’re supposed to say and how to act and to have the best chance.
In order for any system to function smoothly, there has to be some kind of consistency in how it operates. So we all dance to the same music.
In a few instances, our uniqueness and individuality come out, like in our closest personal relationships. But even then, there are limitations. That may be why we treasure most those relationships in which we can express our true selves as much as possible: being oneself in a luxury that few can afford.